Are you Listening to me

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Today my Dad was laid to rest 82 years, to the day, from when he was born.

He did what God wanted him to do in his life and now he is done.

Because of the pandemic, I am not able to see my Dad, one last time.

However;

I can clearly see my Dad as he swings a bat and hits a softball farther than any Dad had ever hit a ball. Over and over again as the sun sets over Sugarloaf Mountain.

I can clearly see my Dad tirelessly working his side business, after a long day at his full-time electrician’s job, to create the money needed to raise his family.

I can clearly see my Dad as he helped me learn how to build things, fix things, and even tear things apart & put them back together again.

I can clearly see my Dad when I worked alongside him learning about electricity, construction, welding, metalworking, automotive stuff, and plumbing.

I can clearly see my Dad as he said to me, “Don’t worry about stuff you can’t change.” (I relearned this later in life as well.)

I can clearly see my Dad as he drove an old topless Willys Jeep through the blinding snow to get a 55-gallon barrel of fuel oil for our furnace, never once complaining about doing it.

I can clearly see my Dad looking me in the eye after I wrecked his truck, and without raising his voice or getting mad he said, “Fix it.” (I did)

I can clearly see my Dad as he did what he could do to help others. I never heard him complain about anything he had to do or turn down helping those he could help.

I can clearly see my Dad as I held the flashlight for him while he worked on something that needed to be fixed. Yes, I too remember him saying, “Over here boy, I’m not working over there,” as I let the light drift away.

I can clearly see my Dad with what he needed to live a good life. No fancy new cars or trucks, no whiz-bang tools or expensive man toys. I never heard my Dad say, “I wish I had…” I learned the value of living a simple & blessed life from my Dad. It’s made a huge difference in my life as I strive to also live a simple and blessed life.

I can clearly see my Dad pulling a calf out of the frozen pool and back into the stable to recuperate. To me, he was a hero saving our calf. (BTW – some of the best hamburgers ever).

I can clearly see my Dad numerous times over the years, in the hospital, sometimes facing death, often in pain, maybe showing a little fear, but never complaining.

I can clearly see my Dad leaving the house every morning before the sun rose to drive to work, never complaining about the drive or the long hours on the construction sites he worked.

I can clearly see my Dad doing what God wanted him to do; raising and caring for his family, even helping his children once they were grown and needed his help. I never heard him complain as he did what he could.

I won’t be able to see my Dad as he is being laid to rest. But I can clearly see my Dad from all the memories I have and I know I’ll be able to continue seeing him as I continue my life.

Rest in Peace Dad.

Love, Teddy Lee Burriss Jr.

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  1. Judy Sheets Avatar
    Judy Sheets

    So sorry for your loss. My condolences and prayers. He had to be a great person to have a son like you. Rest In Peace Mr. Burriss

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thank you Judy. I spent some time pulling stuff out of my memory. It was a great trip I’ll repeat often.

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    2. Jill Avatar
      Jill

      So very sorry for your loss- the memories will sustain you🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼♥️♥️♥️

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  2. Pat Sledge Avatar
    Pat Sledge

    Teddy, my face is wet with tears as I read the tribute to your Dad. My heart is with you. From your memories it is obvious that he was a remarkable man and that his influence on your life gave you the foundation to become the kind of man you are.. hugs. Pat Sledge

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      I appreciate your comment Pat & you.

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  3. Mary Ann Hauser Avatar
    Mary Ann Hauser

    Oh Teddy. I am truly sorry for your loss. I can see your dad too, from this vivid portrait your have just painted! You are so lucky to have such a beautiful history of him to continue to hang on to. I’m sure he feels your love and hugs from heaven!!

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      thanks, Mary Ann. Have a good day my friend.

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  4. Debra Marshall Avatar
    Debra Marshall

    Teddy what a wonderful son you are! This is a beautiful tribute, my heart breaks for you…..💔
    Debra

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      I appreciate your comment here Debra. Memories are not for collecting but for visiting & sharing.

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  5. lydia joy Avatar
    lydia joy

    oh Teddy, I’m so sorry. May your memories bring you peace.
    You will carry this loss for the rest of your life. In time, your shoulders will broaden and it will be easier to carry your grief.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the comment Joy. Have a good day

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  6. Phyllis Euler Avatar
    Phyllis Euler

    Teddy that was beautiful and brought back memories of my papa. A wonderful tribute to your father 💕. So sorry for your loss and these unfortunate circumstances that keep you away.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the comment, Phyllis. BTW, the wrecked truck was related to a gathering of fellow NPI employees, way back then. (lol)

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  7. Sylvia Budd Avatar
    Sylvia Budd

    Teddy
    What an awesome tribute to your dad. He sounds like a wonderful person and I’m sure he was very proud of the man you have become. It is so sad that you couldn’t be there to lay him to rest . Praying for you and your family.
    Sylvia
    PS
    Thanks for introducing me to computers.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note, Sylvia. We will get together post-pandemic to celebrate his life as a family.

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  8. David Phillips Avatar
    David Phillips

    Wow, he sounds like an amazing dad!

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  9. Kimberly Stone Avatar
    Kimberly Stone

    Teddy- That was beyond beautiful. I am so sorry for not only the loss, but that your goodbye was impeded by these strange days. I can “hear” through your words however that you have a crystal clear image of a hero, a wonderful role model and a beloved father. I will keep you and your family in my heart and prayers.

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  10. Ruth Kennedy Avatar
    Ruth Kennedy

    Teddy, thank you for sharing your memories of your dad with us. We celebrate his life with you. Praying for comfort for you and your family. in this season.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks Ruth – we’ll talk soon.

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  11. Mitch Avatar
    Mitch

    Teddy, as I read your special tribute to your dad, you reemphasized how every moment matters. It made me feel like I knew your dad – you honored him well. I am reminded of the benediction prayer – it’s my prayer for you and your family.

    The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26

    Mitch

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note Mitch. I appreciate this. I need to print the Benediction prayer out and put on my desk. Thanks

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  12. Dawn Avatar
    Dawn

    Bill and I are so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. He certainly sounds like a Wonderful Role Model, Provider and Dad, and no doubt he was proud to call you His Son! Prayers at with you during this sad time and we hope many wonderful memories will bring you much peace.
    Bill and Dawn Flynn

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note Dawn. I appreciate you and Bill.

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  13. Susan Mallonee Avatar
    Susan Mallonee

    What a beautiful and moving tribute to your dad and what a legacy he leaves in the man you are, Teddy. Reaching out with my heartfelt condolences and praying God’s deep deep peace for you and your family.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Hi Susan. Thank you very much for your note.

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  14. Connie Chesner Avatar
    Connie Chesner

    Teddy,

    I am so sorry for the grief which you feel right now and the knowledge that I can do little bit offer an ear and a kind heart extended your way to lessen its impact. Thank you for sharing your Dad with the world through a beautifully written tribute that brings him into our hearts as he goes into a world with no pain and suffering. I’d like to think he might happen upon my Dad there as he gets settled, a great Dad club or wing or the like…a place where those who got so much right about the living here, that they find other souls there with whom they discover friends anew. May peace find your heart in small slices and then large swaths, may you continue to see your Dad in your mannerisms and decisions, and may you always know that you are never alone. Peace, my friend…and love.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thank you for the note Connie. I appreciate this. Take care, my friend.

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  15. Annette Stang Avatar
    Annette Stang

    What beautiful memories and tribute to your father.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note Annette.

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  16. Andrea Howell Avatar
    Andrea Howell

    Teddy,

    This is beautiful and explains so much about you and the man, husband and father that you are. And now we know, that he is part of the reason we love you so much.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note my friend.

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  17. John Bost Avatar
    John Bost

    Beautifully written, so many positive memories…I know, was raised the same way, even down to the calf and the veal patties.
    What gift your dad was, truly a blessed man.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note John.

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  18. Pete gresens Avatar
    Pete gresens

    Teddy,

    What a wonderful tribute, thanks for sharing the wonderful journey you shared with your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

    Pete

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the comment Pete.

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  19. Ed Regensburg Avatar
    Ed Regensburg

    My prayers for you and yours Teddy

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note Ed. I appreciate this.

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  20. Nicky Smith Avatar

    Teddy,
    I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing our parents is a difficult role we have in our life. We admire and look up to our Mom and Dad for a lot of different reasons. Be patient in your grieving. I will talk a long, long time. Your Dad clearly sees you as a wonderful human being you have turned out to be. You both are blessed.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thanks for the note Nicky.

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  21. Wanda Swain Avatar

    Teddy, you’re never quite prepared for he loss of a parent, and this loss is made particularly difficult by the absence of personal goodbyes. Your tribute is beautiful and, I hope, comforting to you in having recalled all those wonderful memories. Love to you and your family. You’re in my prayers.

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    1. Teddy Burriss Avatar
      Teddy Burriss

      Thank you for the note, Wanda. My Mom is planning to do a memorial service later this year. Have a good day my friend.

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