The Whole Secret

The Whole Secret

A friend of mine wrote this in her journal and shared it with us this week.

I liked it so much I asked her for permission to share it with you.

Do you know THE Whole Secret for being happy in life?

Here is how she answered this question:

“I love it when people ask me to tell them my secret for BEING HAPPY because I don’t really have a secret other than:

  1. I don’t think the Universe is out to get me
  2. I don’t listen very long to people who want to convince me that I should be unhappy
  3. I pay attention to things that make me unhappy and I stop doing them as soon as possible

That’s pretty much THE WHOLE SECRET.

 

What kind of a Freak are you?

I heard a friend talk about being a Temporary Freak today. He was referencing his activity on LinkedIn.

This got me to thinking – What kind of a Freak am I?

First of all, a Freak is not a bad thing.  My definition of Freak is “A very unusual and unexpected individual.”

In most of what I do, I am a Freak.

I live life in an unusual manner.

My business is as unusual as you can imagine.

I participate in Social Media quite unusual or differently than most

My Network style (Networking for Mutual Benefit) is very unexpectedly to others.

I share who I am as a person with just about anyone willing to take a peek at me and what I do, and for most, this is very unexpected.

And for me, I am not a Temporary Freak.

We joked that in regards to being a Freak you could be:

Contracted, Temporary, Part Time, Retired, Semi, Complete. Partial, Accidental, SubConscious, Comatose and/or Full Time.

In regards to Participating in Life and Social Media, I feel that I am a Full Time nearly Complete Freak.

I try hard to be consistent and honest in these areas, despite the fact that many feel I am unusual and unexpected.

What kind of a Freak are you in Life?

What rewards have you received

I have the privilege of attending a life celebration of a man who has accumulated great rewards during his journey thru life. It is these rewards that helped him to pass away peacefully and provided some comfort for his family.

His life journey has not been captured by ESPN, Travel Channel or Readers Digest.  The life he lived was not awe inspiring, death defying or miraculous. He did not collect a bunch of medals, awards, trophies or plaques from local dignitaries.

The rewards this man has accumulated are numerous and worth more than money, precious stones or gold.

The rewards this man has accumulated are real, yet he is able to take them with him to his grave.

The rewards this gentleman has accumulate thru his life can not be boxed up and put into storage.

The rewards this man has collected do not lay around the house needing regular dusting or shifting to make room for the next great reward.

The rewards this man accumulated are not listed on anyone’s bucket list. And, unlike a wrestlers trophy belt, these rewards can not be taken away by another.

You see, he passed away knowing that the rewards he accumulated are stored in the hearts of all those he touched through out his life.

His wife, his brother, his daughters and son-in-laws.  His grand children, his nieces and nephews, his neighbors and many others.

He knew these rewards existed.  Not that he could touch them or see their shiny chrome and jewels, but because he felt them from the support, help, compassion and care that many shared with him.

My last conversation with this man clearly told me he knew he had been bestowed these rewards.

As we sat in his home, laughing and talking into the night, he indirectly and repeatedly asked one question. To me, I could tell that he was not asking a question, but instead sharing with us that he knew of the rewards he had accumulated.

“I have a Great Family.” Each time he made this statement, in the form of a question. Yet, I could see in his eyes that he was making a statement, not asking a question.  He knew that his family was the main source of  his greatest reward in life.

He received this reward from his wife thru all that she did for him.

He received this reward from his daughters from all they did for him over the years and up unto the last moments of his life.

His son-in-laws and grandchildren bestowed this reward on him thru the tireless help, care and happiness they gave him freely.

He received this reward from the dog who stayed by his side thru his final days.

He received this reward from his brother in part thru the numerous compassionate conversations only brothers can share.

He was proud to receive this reward from his many friends and neighbors.

He knew that these rewards were real and for him to keep, because they were bestowed upon him with no strings attached.

Despite this man taking these rewards with him, they are still visible in the smiles, the tears, the laughter, stories and memories that he leaves behind with his family.

He has been bestowed these rewards because he cared, he gave, and he loved. He did not seek these rewards.

He received these rewards from many who participated in the life of the man who only sought to be, the best husband, father, brother, neighbor and friend a person can be.

For this, he received in return Love, the greatest of rewards.

Love is not a reward you seek, but one that is bestowed upon you when you give it freely.

This reward provides peace to those it is shared with when someone you love passes on.

Love, and you will receive the greatest of rewards.

Rapture or ecstasy

One of my many mantras in life is my reply to the ever so regular salutation, “How are you doing?”

My response is always, (not almost always, but ALWAYS) a subset of the mantra, “I am doing unbelievably fantastic, hovering near ecstasy, and right now it’s not chemically induced.”  Once I am good friends with someone, they get to hear this exact reply directly a few times a year.

This morning, May 22, 2011, the day after what Harold Camping again predicted would be the end of the world, doomsday or rapture, I am pleased to say that I am doing unbelievably fantastic, hovering near ecstasy, and right now it’s not chemically induced.

Sitting on my front porch, listening to the birds singing, a beautiful crystal blue sky overhead and the air crisp and clean.  Reading the Sunday paper, (primarily the sports & comic sections), I wondered about the word rapture.  I kinda know the meaning of it, but thought I did not fully know it’s meaning.  So, I looked up the definition of rapture.

Definitions of rapture (n)

overwhelming happiness: a euphoric transcendent state in which somebody is overwhelmed by happiness or delight and unaware of anything else
mystical transportation: a mystical experience in which somebody believes he or she is transported into the spiritual realm, sometimes applied to the second coming of Jesus Christ, when true believers are expected to rise up to join him in heaven
state of great happiness or enthusiasm: a state of great happiness or enthusiasm about something, or words and gestures that express this
Synonyms: ecstasy, euphoria, bliss, delight, joy, heaven, elation

Wow, I’ve living rapture all my life and didn’t even realize it.  Thanks for pointing this out Harold.  I’m not sure about unaware of anything else or the mystical transportation thing, (more about that later today), but overwhelming happiness, state of great happiness or enthusiasm, yeah, I’m there 24x7x365.

Now, my mantra could be, “I am doing unbelievably fantastic, hovering in rapture, and right now it’s not chemically induced.  Join me please.”

Teddy