It’s over, we’re finished and I don’t love you any more

How do I say these words to her?

This question had been weighing heavily on his mind for weeks now.

He had finally given up on the relationship but did not know how to tell her.

In the beginning, he felt special.

The conversations, messages, and phone calls were all alluring, often personal and seductive in many different ways. She often shared tantalizing videos with him.

He felt that she could be the one.

He had been tempted to try another for his new relationship.

Some seemed interesting to him, but he felt they were just a little too tawdry, maybe a little bit fake. He steered clear of them.

There were others that were interested in him as well. He found some to be too glamorous, too full of life and zest for him. He thought they might only be interested in his money.

He soon discounted all of these and turned his attention back to her.

She always treated him well. She always met all of his expectations. She even offered him gifts regularly. She never seemed interested in money. She seemed to care for him because of who he was and how he treated her. She regularly told him that their relationship was built on trust and respect. This made him happy.

She was always pleasant when he saw her. Her smile lit up the room and her soft voice was always pleasant to his ears. The other guys were jealous of his relationship with her. “Wow man, you got lucky,” they would say.

Every time they talked, she was eager to hear from him. She wanted to listen to him share his dreams and his plans for the future. She was delighted, often giggling when he talked about “taking their relationship to another level.” He enjoyed making her feel special.

Early in the relationship, he was ecstatic. He was overjoyed that he had found the one for him.

However, relationships don’t always last. In the fifth year of their relationship, the happiness began to deteriorate.

She began treating him with less respect and compassion. She nearly stopped caring about his needs and desires altogether. When he asked her to help him with something, she acted as if he was being unreasonable and pushy.

Yet, her expectations of him never changed. She expected him to spend money on her, just as always. Regardless of how she treated him, she expected him to fulfill all of her needs.

Over time the divide between them grew deeper and wider.

When they talked, she acted as if she pretended there was no problem. However, he could feel the passion was no longer there.

“Our relationship is important to me, I’ll do anything to keep us together,” she would say. Sometimes with emotion, often as if from a script. This hurt him.

She said, “I care for you and want our relationship to grow.” He had heard these words from her so many times. Eventually, he no longer valued them.

Each time she failed to deliver on her promise to do better, they talked. He wanted her to do better in the relationship. It was as important to him, but he could tell it was not important to her.

“Please, trust me. I will do better. I need you,” she would say. These pleadings stung him deeply each time she uttered them.

The conversations slowly turned into only email messages. He no longer wanted to talk with her, yet he still did not know how to tell her it was over.

At times he felt that despite the trouble, he should stay with her. Their relationship had gone on for nearly five years now. This was a long time for him.

He asked some of his friends what to do. Some suggested that he keep trying. Some friends tried to introduce him to others.

Some days he worried about her, while other days he was so upset he just wanted to call her one last time and yell at her, “It’s over! You have ruined our relationship and I never want to hear from you ever again! Go away!” Yet, he was not an angry man and would never say these words to her.

Even while trying to solve the problems she would send him letters and gifts as if their relationship was still alive. This hurt him even more. She did not seem to see their relationship crumbling.

In time it became clear to him that she no longer cared for him at all. She was just desperate to keep a broken, one-sided, relationship alive. Likely her only concern was that he would find another.

Finally, after weeks of her constant failings, with no new commitment to being a better partner, he decided the time had come. He knew how to tell her.

He sat down on the porch of his beach house, the salty mist sticking to his face, the oncoming storm blowing sand across his bare feet. He opened his laptop computer and clicked on compose a new email.

Dear Danica (aka GoDaddy)

It has become quite clear to me that you do not care about my needs any longer. My site has been down far too often over the past few months. Therefore, I have created a new relationship with BlueHost.

I’m sure this new relationship will be much better for me.

Teddy

I wrote this story as a creative writing contest for Writerweekly.com on 4/14/2013.

Dear GoDaddy – Your customer service is horrible

Dear GoDaddy

Please do not send me a canned response to my third message about my site(s) not being accessible.

Please do not include “advertisements” for additional products when if you read my message you can obviously see I am unhappy.

Please know that I am on my last nerve and actively looking for a new service provider.

24/7 Sales & Support: (480) 505-8877 – 24/7 Billing Support: (480) 505-8855

Our support staff has responded to your request, details of which are described below:

Discussion Notes
Support Staff Response
Dear Teddy,

Thank you for contacting Online Support.

I understand you have been unable to access the website when you visit teddyburriss.com/blog &burrissconsulting.com/tlburriss. Upon review of the issue, it appears that I am able to successfully resolve the pages when I visit teddyburriss.com/blog & burrissconsulting.com/tlburriss. You may need to clear your browser cache if you are still unable to access the website. Clearing your browser’s cache might help alleviate many problems including:

    • Failing log in attempts to any website
    • Out of date information displaying on a website
    • Slow Web browser performance

Before clearing your cache, log out of any websites you’re currently logged in to.

To Clear Your Cache in Google Chrome™

Open the Tools menu, and select Clear Browsing Data.

Select Empty the cache.

From the Clear data from this period list, select Everything.

Click Clear Browsing Data.

To Clear Your Cache in Internet Explorer® 8

Open the Tools menu, and select Internet Options.

Click on the General tab in the dialog box.

Under Browsing History, click Delete...

Select Temporary Internet Files and History, and Cookies and any other private data you want to delete.

Click Delete.

To Clear Your Cache in Internet Explorer 9 and 10

From the Tools menu, select Safety, and then select Delete Browsing History.

To Clear Your Cache in Mozilla Firefox®

Open the Tools menu, and select Clear Recent History.

In the Details list, select Cache, and any other private data you want to delete.

Click Clear Now.

To Clear Your Cache in Mozilla Firefox 15

From the Firefox menu, click Options.

Go to the Privacy tab.

Click Clear recent history.

Select a Time range to clear, and then click Clear Now.

To Clear Your Cache in Netscape®

Open the Edit menu, and select Preferences.

Expand the Advanced menu by clicking on the plus sign (+).

Select Cache, and click Clear Cache.

Click OK.

To Clear Your Cache using Firefox® on a Macintosh®

Open the Tools menu, and select Clear Recent History.

In the Details list, select Cache, and any other private data you want to delete.

Click Clear Now.

To Clear Your Cache Using Safari® on a Macintosh®

From the Safari menu, select Preferences.

Go to the Privacy tab.

Next to Cookies and other website data, click Details.
NOTE: You can also click Remove All Website Data to completely clear the browser’s cookies.

Select the websites for which you want to remove cookies, and then click Remove.

Click Done.

To Clear Your Cache Using Safari on iOS®

Open the Settings application.

Tap Safari.

Tap Clear Cache.

Please let us know if we can assist you in any other way.

Regards,
Gilbert P.
Online Support

Customer Inquiry
FYI – here is the message I get when trying to access my sites (teddyburriss.com/blog or burrissconsulting.com/tlburriss)

Internal Server Error

The server encountered an internal error or misconfiguration and was unable to complete your request.

Please contact the server administrator and inform them of the time the error occurred, and anything you might have done that may have caused the error.

More information about this error may be available in the server error log.

Apache Server at www.teddyburriss.com Port 80

Customer Inquiry
Name : Teddy Burriss
Domain Name : teddyburriss.com
ShopperID : 31052231
Phone : ——-
Shopper Validated : Yes
Browser : Mozilla/5.0 (Macintosh; Intel Mac OS X 10_8_2) AppleWebKit/537.22 (KHTML, like Gecko) Chrome/25.0.1364.160 Safari/537.22
Issue :
Repeatedly my site & the blogs that are on it are unaccessible. I called and talked to support a few weeks ago, however, the problem persists. please help me to make my site & the associated blogs on it accessible.

 

If you need further assistance with this matter, please contact customer service at (480) 505-8877 and reference [Incident ID: 18142818].

Please let us know how we are doing by completing the survey located here.

To thank you for your patience, we’d like you to enjoy 20%* off your order of $65 or more at GoDaddy.com. Simply use source code gdbb687 when you order or mention the code when you call (480) 505-8877.

Thanks,
Go Daddy

P.S. As a Go Daddy customer you’re already a member of our affiliate program. Click here to start earning commission instantly.