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Teddy Burriss is widely acknowledged as a master networker, who has amassed an unparalleled network of business colleagues, partners and friends over his 25+ year career. Teddy coaches customer-facing employees to build trusted customer and vendor relationships through improved networking skills, including the use of the many different Social Media Tools. Teddy lives out a commitment to his mantra “Networking is the act of finding, developing and nurturing relationships that mutually move people forward in life.”

We Went South

20 years ago this week, 2/12/1997, the entire Burriss Tribe, Teddy, Rebecca, Jessie, Rachel, Megan & Lauren hopped in the Honda mini-van and headed south to Advance North Carolina.

The journey began around November of 1996 with a potential move to New Jersey. However before we made the move north we got notice North Carolina would be where my job would finally be based.

The move to North Carolina was chaotic and emotional. We left a new community and new school systems into an older community with older less technological schools.

It took lots of work, patience and prayers to transition the teen age and pre-teen daughters through this change. However, within three months the emotions calmed and happiness began to develop for the entire family.

20 years later the girls (aka Myrtles) have all moved out of the house and into their own homes and developing families.

The family has grow significantly to include 4 men (aka the Stallions), 10 GrandWeWaps (grandkids), three new dogs and a few cats and chickens.

Our network of friends have grown significantly and our community involvement continues to grow in many different ways.

We all loved Maryland and our friends and home in Monrovia.

Today, we all love having moved into North Carolina, our friends and businesses we have built down here.

Thank you North Carolina for welcoming us into this state.

I know I am a Blessed Man

I know I am a blessed man. Here are some of the reasons I have that remind me of this every day.

  1. I’m blessed that I am healthy. Yes, I know as a 58 yr old I can’t do everything I was able to do as a teen ager, but I’m doing pretty good and I am not taking any drugs. I’m blessed that I am healthy.

    Bum and the Mytrles
    Bum and the Myrtles
  2. I’m blessed that I have been happily married for 38+ yrs with the woman I fell in love with way back then. We laugh together, pray together, play together, have many of the same goals and enjoy each other’s company most of the time. I’m a man – sometimes I need to be checked and I’m blessed that she wants to keep me in check. I’m blessed my wife still loves me.
  3. I’m blessed to have 4 daughters who are healthy, independent, in love, enjoying and living their own lives. I’m blessed that they call me Dad, Friend, Coach and Helper when they want my help. I’m blessed to have 4 beautiful daughters.boppy-and-stallions-2016
  4. I’m blessed to have my 4 Stallions. These are the guys who have taken the lead in my daughter’s lives and love them, care for them, support them and even keep them in check when they need it. I’m blessed they call me Boppy, Friend, Coach and Helper when they want my help. I am blessed to have these guys in my life.

    The GrandWeWaps
    The GrandWeWaps
  5. I’m blessed to have 10 GrandWeWaps. These are the children of my 4 daughters and the Stallions. I’m blessed they like to come visit me and enjoy the time they spend with me when I come visit them. I’m blessed they like some of my stories and a few of my jokes. I’m blessed they call me Boppy, Friend and sometimes a smart old man. I’m blessed that when they leave they give me a hug good bye and sometimes ask me to come back soon. I’m blessed to have these great youngsters in my life.
  6. I’m blessed to have hundreds of friends who I get to laugh with, work with, play with, help our community with and care for and who care for me. I’m blessed to have a thriving network of friends in my life.
  7. I’m blessed to have all of the materialistic stuff I need to survive and even thrive in life. I used to say it’s not much, however I am more than thrilled every day of my life that I’m blessed to have far more than I need or deserve in life.
  8. I’m blessed my future is brighter than I ever imagined it could be. I’m blessed that I get to work towards my goals in life and to have so many people on this fabulous journey with me.
  9. I’m blessed my wife and I chose to start a business together and we are exceeding all of our goals as we work together to create this business. I’m blessed to be able to work towards these business goals with my beautiful and loving wife.
  10. I’m blessed to live in a country where I have the freedom to choose my own goals in life, what I want to do and where I want to live and work. I’m blessed to be able to make decisions that can positively influence my future despite all the changes going on in our world.
  11. I’m blessed to be able to learn from others and grow as an individual. I’m blessed by all those in my life I get to learn from.
  12. I’m blessed to be able to help others. My wife and I jointly made the decision in 2010 to give back to our community as much as we possibly can. I’m blessed that this giving has been rewarding and enabled me to meet so many fabulous people who have also helped me in so many ways.
  13. I’m blessed that on this Sunday evening after Thanksgiving 2016 I get to sit back in my living room, watch a little football and scribble down this short list of reasons that remind me every day that I am blessed.

I realize that I am far more blessed than I deserve. I know that many people in my community and in the world are far less fortunate than I am.

I ask God every day to help me to do what I can to help others knowing that only when I give can I receive. I know giving is important and being able what I can is not a requirement or a responsibility to me. Rather giving back to others is a life purpose and a blessing for me.

I am blessed. Thank you God for all of my blessings.

My oldest is 34 today – What is that all about

Today is January 3, 2016.

34 years ago the announcement that may have been printed in the local paper would have said, “Mr Teddy Burriss & his lovely wife Rebecca (aka Bum) are the proud parents of a bouncing baby girl.”

Jessie

I asked them not to print that because I had yet to see our newborn baby bounce. And, Rebecca did not want me to test her.

True story – As an infant, I dropped her once and I was not testing the bounce theory.

Fast forward to yesterday when this observation of being the Father of a 34 year old really hit me.

I decided to look back at the past 34 years and review the memories.

Here are the ones that came to mind the quickest, not necessarily in chronological order:

  • 8lbs, 1 oz, 21.5″ long, ear is red from doctor using forceps, no birth marks
  • very alert, as if to be asking “who is that loud guy?”
  • blue eyes, ultimately blond hair at year 1
  • Ronald Regan was our President
  • loved to put food in her hair
  • Loves mashed potatoes
  • face plant at the pool
  • cousins
  • burb-bottom
  • loves to help mom cook
  • Dad hung Aubrey (the doll)
  • at Fireworks – ‘change the channel please’
  • “I’ll have Chicken nuggets and for my two sides I’ll have mashed potatoes and mashed potatoes”
  • Made me smile day one and still today
  • Short curly hair as a child
  • She loves (loved?) mismatched clothes
  • Play music and she danced. More like her mommy, not her daddy
  • Put a crayon or pencil in her hand and she smiled as she wrote words
  • She loves to learn
  • She loves the teachers who care to teach her
  • She asks lots of questions
  • She was as beautiful as a child as she is today
  • No, she did not have me wrapped around her little finger
  • I gave her my favorite little car
  • Miss curfew and Mom will run down the sidewalk in her big fluffy yellow robe & curlers in her hair to yell at you and your boy friend
  • She was clear and precise at finding her life partner. Skips celebrations on Leap Year since 2000
  • Her husband is a good choice.
  • The trials and tribulations of becoming a tenant. Slum lords suck
  • Love pushes you to achieve lots of goals, including your husband’s US Citizenship. It was all him, but with a good women behind him
  • Early Home Owner  because you built your Credit Score
  • You became a fabulous mommy in development on 5/13/2003
  • “What do you hear?”, “I hear two”, “two what”, “heart beats”, “where”, in there”, “in her?”….
  • A business woman has Focus, Passion, Desire, Attitude, Ability, Purpose, Goal, Compassion, Faith and never lets anything stop her from building a thriving business that changes peoples lives in a positive way
  • Landlord, Home Owner & Mortgage Banker
  • Yeah, we’ll have 4 children
  • Your family is my family, let’s do what we can to help them
  • Our home is their home
  • We are responsible for her success because we brought her to our home. We’ll treat her like our daughter.
  • Tippy
  • Becca
  • Rosie
  • Bubble Lips
  • Hard work is only for those who don’t love their business
  • Yes baby, we’ll move to Raleigh because you love your job
  • Tree
  • Luge in the back yard in the winter
  • Walking in the blizzard
  • Can I play with the computer Daddy?
  • What is the Internet and how do you make money using it?
  • Myrtle
  • GrandWeWaps
  • Dad bought a bra
  • Boss & Leader
  • Entrepreneur
  • Activist
  • Writer
  • Why is Izzy crying now?
  • Columnist
  • If the answer should be yes, she’ll not take no for an answer.
  • Smart
  • Sassy
  • Frugal
  • Moola Saving Mom is a success!
  • Strategist
  • Happy
  • Loving

My daughter – Jessie Lee.

I am a blessed Man. I have four beautiful smart, compassionate daughters. Each raising their own family. Being a Blessed Dad kicked off for me 34 years ago.

Happy Birthday Jessie

I love you

Dad

Here are some images that sparked my memories

New Years Eve Failure or Not

New Years Eve Failure or Not?

FatherTimeLast night, 12/31/14 Bum & I went to a local bar for a New Year’s Eve Celebration that failed, but was yet a great time.

Our daughter Megan and her husband Marc invited us (Bum & I) to join them at Classics Bar & Grill in Advance NC, right down the road from where I live. Normally we do not go out on New Year’s Eve, but thought this would be fun to do, so we agreed.

We got there at 7pm and there were less than 20 people in the bar. The table area was nearly completely empty.

After ordering a round the waitress  told us that the restaurant was going to close at 8pm. We all laughed at what we thought was a joke, but, Nope, she was serious.

On New Year’s Eve, the only local bar, positioned in a community that is poised to exploded over the next few years and they are closing early on New Year’s Eve.

This seems to be a New Years Eve Failure

While we laughed at what we considered a business failure here is what else happened:

Girl Dancing with Juke boxRepeatedly one lady in the bar kept playing music on the digital juke box. Each time she swiped her card in the credit card slot she appeared to be twerking with the juke box.

Yeah, yeah, I know people dance in front of juke boxes all the time. This was way different.  She appeared to be twerking on the juke box. We were laughing so hard more than one of us snorted at the table. Later we discovered it was one of the bar owners.

beer-towerWhen ordering another round of beer we thought about ordering a beer tower. The price was not too bad and Courtney would put our favorite beer in it. However, since the bar was closing in less than 1 hour she suggested that we not order a beer tower. We agreed. 10 minutes later the table behind us ordered one and had it delivered. We laughed thinking there was no way 4 people could drink 12 beers in less than 30 minutes. We were wrong.

funny-man-at-barAn older guy walked up to our table and wished us a Happy New Year. While talking he said he had two wives and had owned two expensive homes, neither of which he still had or lived in, yet his ex-wives were very happy in “them thar homes.” He said he now lives in a hotel room.

I wished him better success in 2015. He came back later and in the chat I told him Bum and I were still married after 37 years. He was so excited, cajoled us into standing up and hugging him. Later on we saw him dancing with an older woman up near the jukebox. Our barmaid told us it was his mother.

At around 8:30pm, 30 minutes past closing time I wanted another beer. Our barmaid came over to the table to check on us. I told her I wanted another beer, but I would not order one if she wanted us to leave. She looked like she wanted us to leave, but agreed that because she had work to do in the back room I could have another beer. Megan wanted another margarita too.

bang-bang-shrimpWe joked with the barmaid about a local bar wanting to close at 8pm on New Year’s Eve. When I asked her what she was going to do after work she said she was going to go home and cook Bang Bang Shrimp. I asked if we could come over and she said yes. I’m a smart man. Bum was there and I knew the barmaid only wanted a bigger tip. She left laughing to get my beer. She came back with my beer but forgot Megan’s drink.

We finished up laughing and cutting up with the barmaid by about 8:45pm. We were nearly the last people out of the bar. On the way out of the bar we saw the sign on the doors. Handwritten on yellow ledger paper, “Closing at 8pm New Year’s Eve.”

We didn’t get a chance to close down the year in this local bar, but we closed down the local bar on New Year’s Eve.

Normally if we were told to exit a local bar at 8pm on New Year’s Eve we would consider it a New Years Eve Failure. However, everything else that happened that night made it somewhat successful, ie – funny.

Prayers Lifted for NICU Babies

Abigail-RosaleeTrivette

Last weekend (8/23/2014) I spent time in the NICU of Mission Children’s Hospital when our newest GrandWeWap Twins were born that morning.  My second daughter Rachel and her husband Sid Trivette, the proud parents were there with my wife, Rebecca (aka Bum) and two other daughters (Jessie & Lauren).

Abigail & Rosalee had challenges, yet I prayed and believed that God would guide the good folks at the hospital to safely get the girls thru this period in their young lives.

Abigail and Rosalee were nearly 5lb babies and born at approximately 34 weeks (full term births are between 37 & 42 weeks).

While waiting for the nurse and doctors to take care of our girls, I walked the NICU floor and saw many other children that believed needed our prayers.

That weekend there were 48 babies in this NICU. At least nine sets of twins according to one of the nurses working there.

As I walked around I saw lots of babies being taken care of by dozens of doctors and nurses. There were portable x-ray equipment moving around the floor, lots of equipment being monitored and medical supplies, drugs and fluids being distributed. It was a very busy and emotional place to be.

I saw and looked into the faces of lots of anxious parents. I saw excitement, fear and hope all bundled up in the eyes of these parents. I intentionally shared a smile with each glance, and often received a smile back.

I continued quietly walking the floor until I came back to section C where our girls were. I walked up to Abigail and gave her a “Boppy” finger hug. She hugged me back with her tiny little fingers. I walked over to Rosalee, hugged her finger as well and she returned the hug too.

Today (Monday September 1, 2014) I got an email message from some professional friends at The Green Shoe Studios that reminded me that I live a blessed life.

With, 9 Grandkids, four daughters and their respective partners and my wife of 34 some odd years, my life is filled with excitement, happiness and love. We have our challenges, but all in all I live a very blessed life.

When I read the message from Green Shoe Studios and watched the YouTube video I knew I should share it with you.

Watch this video, listen to the story and then think for a moment, do you too live a blessed life? If you feel the desire, do what you want and can to help Aiden and his family. And, take another moment and lift a prayer for NICU babies.

Thanks for letting me share this with you.

Teddy

How many Lisas do you know

I originally wrote “How Many Mikes do you know.”

Here is what I discovered about the women in my LinkedIn Network.

Out of now 3890 people, here is a list of the women’s names that showed up 10 or more times each.

First Name Count
Lisa 41
Mary 29
Susan 26
Jennifer 22
Karen 21
Julie 20
Linda 19
Robin 19
Donna 18
Ashley 17
Amy 16
Ann 16
Kimberly 16
Lori 16
Stephanie 16
Angela 15
Barbara 14
Deborah 14
Amanda 13
Beth 13
Kim 12
Laura 12
Melissa 12
Tracy 12
Denise 11
Elizabeth 11
Heather 11
Kathryn 11
Pam 11
Sharon 11
Tammy 11
Teresa 11
Brenda 10
Cheryl 10
Debbie 10
Katherine 10
Michelle 10
Rachel 10
Sarah 10

Each of these individuals are unique in their own right, even though, not in name.

I hope you enjoyed this little un-scientific research.

Teddy